SNUBBED!!
I am going to apologize ahead of time for this negative sounding blog. I hate being negative and I don't enjoy reading alot of negative blogs, so go ahead and stop reading if you are not in the mood to hear some rants.
We went to the pool today. (Me, Avery, Parker, and Jude : Bailey is still at camp) We walk in and there is this mom that I know from church. Not really ever a super friendly person at church (you know all her friends are usually with her - the clique). Let me just tell you before I go any further, I'm not a big fan of this person, never have been, and now NEVER will be. She walks past me TWICE and doesn't say hi, smile, NOTHING!!! I go to church with this lady. I KNOW her. It isn't like we never see each other or she doesn't recognize me. (I've thought about that excuse because I don't wear makeup AND I wear my sunglasses to the pool) My kids are with me, she has taught my kids in Bible class, she KNOWS me. IT also isn't like there are people EVERYWHERE, the pool had hardly anybody there. So I thought, I'll say hi and FORCE her hand. GUESS WHAT?? I was SNUBBED!!!! SO I just don't get it. What is it about people that makes them think that it is appropriate to act this way? What are our kids learning? I would DIE if I knew that one of my kids was treating someone this way. I would ALSO die if someone felt I treated them this way. Let's all make a pact. If you KNOW someone one day, act like you know them the next day. If you are in a bad mood, FAKE IT!!! SMILE!!!! Don't treat someone rotten just BECAUSE!!! I do NOT have time in my life to try and figure out if you are my friend or not. Either you act like you like me today and everyday after, or just move on. I'm not the friend for you!! I am by NO means perfect! I am not saying THAT! I just want people to be consistent. That's it!
posted by Nicole @ 3:19 PM
21 Comments:
I think you should go to church and spread a rumor that you saw her stealing a $20 out of the collection plate.
Well, Nicole, I'm not sure I'd stoop to her level by spreading a rumor about her. But it will tell you this. Don't even waste your time thinking about it. It's her loss. How sad is it to have an opportunity to make a friend and just blow it off? I'd be aggravated by the way she acted too, but I'd sure forget it and not take it personally. Her loss.
I know where you are coming from and if I know her atttiude sucks, dun waste time on her. Yes, agreed with Barb, it is her loss...not yours.
You have seen her true colours and she is not worth it.
Hope you're feeling better now.
UGH - haven't we all had those moments when we feel someone should have been more Christian-like when they proclaim to be one? Like Barb's comment said: take the high road, know who YOU are in Christ, and move on...
YOU ARE LOVED!!! :)
That was a great rant. Every once in awhile it's nice to read something like this... I was going to vent today, but I don't need to now. [Breath in and breath out.]
I am sorry she is so oblivious to what she has done. You are right, one should fake it before making someone feel inferior. Obviously her life isn't up to par with her expectations... if it were, she would have been more pleasing.
A good rant in a safe place does wonders!
You know that love-your-enemy thing . .. well wouldn't it just beat all if you sent her chocolates or flowers or a nice card or something - you know - loved on her like a best friend? With a little note that said something like "Thought I'd send these becasue when I saw you at the pool the other day you seemed so occupied, I got conserned and pray that all is well with you and yours. Hope this brittens up your day. Love in Chirst Me."
Not that I could do it myself mind you . . . but it is late (early) and half my brain is already in bed . . . so I'm kinda random.
It is unfortunate for this to happen, but so often happens among women.
The first thing that popped into my head is that this person is intimidated by you... not saying it is your fault, but maybe they are very insecure, and they choose to ignore you altogether. Flip Flop Mamma's right- you are beautiful and that could be intimidating. EVEN if this other person is pretty, too. SO... my suggestion is to pray for her.
BTW- I have eventually become good friends with people that had other opinions of me first!
My feelings would be hurt, and have been in the past by the very same situation, my two cents on the issue are that you are a strong woman of the Lord, and your consistancy of kindness comes from Him, not from your surroundings and others, so keep on smiling and offering kindness to others even when they might not be smiling back, otherwise Satan can take something like hurt feelings and make a mountain out of it. You have blessed me with your smile many, many times!
I hate when things like this happen... It has happened to me on several occasions... I have learned to just think "their loss" or "don't need em" so that I don't dwell on it. She doesn't sound like a very nice person anywho...
LOVED your post, it's so true and I've gone through this same thing time and time again.
One of the moms at my daughter's school does the exact same thing. One day she walks up to me and starts a conversation and acts like we've know each other forever and the very next day she walks by me a couple of times and not even a smile, she deliberately turns her head. That's just rude!!!
I'm the kind of person that is always worried about being rude or hurting someone's feelings, but unfortunately not everybody is like that....I say keep doing what you're doing and ignore her too.
Thanks for stopping by my blog :)
Sandra
Man people leave you a lot of comments!
Good for you for not stooping down to her level. You know you did what was right by taking the first step and saying hi so feel good about that.
In all reality, I agree with the Flip Flop Momma--she WAS probably totally intimidated by you and your good looks!
You know, to be honest, I've thought of that before. Not because I am this "gorgeous" person that everyone thinks that about(anyway I put that I just sounds conceited - sorry, I've rewritten it several times and it just WON'T come out right - you know what I mean though , right?) - AT ALL, but there are pretty people that I "look up" to and I understand that feeling, but guess what? I still say hi and smile. I'm not rude. I think that is a TOTAL cop out. People need to be held accountable for thwir actions. WE ARE ADULTS!!! Right? Let's grow up. I so have to say that I laughed out loud too at anonymous coward's comment. So Funny!! I am just one of those people that thinks about things WAY too much. And this just REALLY bothered me!!
PS, Kik - I love that people comment on here. I am VERY flattered!! Thanks everybody!!!
and Sandra - THAT is EXACTLY what I am talking about!!!
Nicole- haven't we all been there. It is so hard to let things go- when someone really hurts your feelings- at least it is for me. I have been known to carry a notecard around with Col 3:13 written on it! When I start dwelling on the incedent (which is a weakness of mine) I read the card and turn it over to the Lord. I will be praying for you and our dear sister that seems to have memory problems:)
Hun ... I am so sorry she treated you like that! You of all people are so sweet! If this is not a normal occurance for her I would just take it as maybe she really was preoccupied and having a bad day but if this is her normal attitude then wash your hands sister and move on there are lots of amazing women of God who would love to be your friend and like other have said her loss.... I think I can speak for everyone who comments on your page... that we would love to run into you at the pool or anywhere... You just seem to be the sweetiest person and so down to earth and real! I would love to hang out with you! Hope you are having a better day! (week) LOts of Love!
Renee
You can take solace in knowing that you already were the bigger person. I don't understand why people are like that. Aren't we all in this together?
Exactly!!
I hate that as an adult, people still have the power to make me feel like I'm on the playground again!
Hope it didn't dampen the fun at the pool!
The sad thing is that it DID!! MY poor kids. It ruined my whole day! I'm not kidding. It really got to me. I think that I am over it - For now! HA!!
Thanks for coming by my blog! We must be soul sisters--how many people like Rich Mullins, Norah Jones, the Dixie Chicks AND Jack Johnson. I've only read your profile and this post about being snubbed and I like you already! :)
I completely agree with you--there is NEVER, EVER a good excuse to snub someone. I've been on the receiving end of snubs more times than I care to count--and my husband always says the same thing--"They're intimidated by you. So then they try to turn it around and intimidate you to push back their own feelings."
So--while it still hurts my feelings, I try to remember that most people are insecure and can't handle people who walk in the confidence of the Lord. Just pray for that lady and don't give it another thought.
AC comments a hoot! Some women are just sassy that way. I'm sorry that this happened. But, I always try to remember that I never know what someone is going through on a day by day basis so try not judge. I try to think thought a lot when I drive!! I'm a lead-foot! Better option, is to try not to dwell on it and just pray for them that God will change their heart!
Here's to more happy days at the pool! :)
P.S. Thanks for stopping by my blog! Nothing like another Texas gal blogger! (Although I'm not physically there I will be very soon.)
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